Tranquil Spirit, Northwich, Cheshire, UK - Spirit Communications: Self-Esteem

Spirit Communications through Trance Mediumship/Channeling:

Self-Esteem

Kelly from Florida in the USA asked: "Where does low self-esteem come from? How does it come about? This was Hai’s response:

Hai: Low self esteem may come from many quarters, many different ways, many different directions. It may come from our own upbringing during our childhood because of messages which we receive from other people. Not necessarily our parents, but sometimes others also who are around us, who give us, intentionally or unintentionally, negative messages about our own worth, about our own value and abilities.

Yet sometimes we may have an inner disposition to this, to this self effacement, to this low self esteem. And sometimes we may have volunteered ourselves for this in choosing this, our next life in this world; that we go through this challenge; this experience of low self esteem; that we may rise above it, so that we may learn from it in some way; that we may learn the nature of the self; that we may learn the nature of understanding the self. This sometimes can help this process.

But yet also there are other sources of self effacement, low self esteem. Because there are many in your world, your society, who generate, who create, wrong values, wrong measures. Indeed all measures are useless. But they create useless measures, wrong measures, inappropriate measures, false measures. And they compare people, they measure people against the rule which they have created. And sometimes, often in fact, the measures, the rules which your societies create are flawed, are inappropriate, are without merit, without reality. People, for instance, set up certain skills as being important, as being desirable, as being more important than others. They rate people, they measure people against these skills or abilities and come to conclusions about their worth. This is false. This is error. This is great error. For the value of each person simply lies within the inner reality of that person, not in terms of what they can accomplish, not in terms of what they can do, not in terms of the abilities or merits which they possess.

None of these are ways of measuring the true worth of a person, for the true worth of a person, the true reality of a person is within themselves, is inherent within their own nature and there is no one that can take this from you. (Said with great emphasis) You are all, my friends, eminently worthy of great value, of great lovingness towards you. Your worth is without measure my friends. You are worthy of love beyond understanding, beyond measuring my friends. And you must believe this my friends. For there are many of you in your world who do not believe this and this is a sadness to us. It is sadness to us for you are all eminently worthy; you are all infinitely worthy and valuable. You are all without precedent. You are all unique in your worthiness, in your value. And yet, if you put blocks between yourselves and your understanding, your appreciation of this value of yourselves then you fail, you fail to see, to connect with your worthiness, your infinite worthiness and value, your beauty and your prevent yourselves from witnessing our love for you, your love for each other. You prevent yourselves from the experience of this lovingness towards you.

Therefore, we would say to you to cast aside all the measures of men, all these flawed and useless measures, for they are of no account in the infinite reality of things. All these measures are as grains of sand in the desert which blow hither and thither. They form a dune one day and the dune is gone the next. They are without merit. They are blown away over the aeons of time and are forgotten and are of no account. Therefore we would say to you to put aside all these measures of men and to recognise your own value, your own infinite value, intrinsic in itself.

I give you four men who happen upon a flower, a flower in the marshes yes, a beautiful flower, a simple flower of a few white petals with a beautiful blue centre. Four men travelling together happen upon this beautiful simple flower. One says: "Oh, look at the symmetry of this flower. Is not the symmetry of this flower and its form beautiful, so perfectly shaped.?" Another says: "Oh no my friend. This is not the most attractive feature of this flower. Have you not seen the beautiful pale white colour of its petals? So gentle, so subtle, so quiet, so beautiful." Another says: "No my friend, you are mistaken. This is not the most attractive feature of this flower, for this flower has a beautiful centre. Have you not seen all its stamens, all its intricate parts, all its intricate details of its centre?" Another one says: "No my friend you are wrong. Have you not seen the beauty of its centre. You focus upon its detail when you have this beautiful blueness, this essential blueness at its heart, which calms the mind, which raises the mind to spiritual heights?"

And so you have my friends even in this case where these four men agree upon the beauty of this flower, they haggle over the beauty and what is the most beautiful aspect of it. The flower within itself laughs at them all for it says to itself: "All of these things are mine, and I am all of these things. You cannot split them, you cannot dissect me, and you cannot rend me asunder. I am who I am. I am that I am. And so it is with each of us. Therefore, those who would dissect you should take their scalpels elsewhere and waste their time on other activities. Therefore do not let anyone rend asunder your wholeness for you are each whole unto yourselves. There I have finished my sermon. (Laughs)