Tranquil Spirit, Northwich, Cheshire, UK - Spirit Communications: Non-Attachment

Spirit Communications:

Non-Attachment

Non-Attachment and Inner Happiness

Hai: You must wait for your compass needle to settle. It is all over the place at the moment so therefore you must wait for it to settle. The needle will settle, it will stabilise over a short time but you must let it stabilise then you can get the true direction which you seek, the true way forward for your life. You must not agitate your mind, must not trouble your mind and stir it up. Allow it to settle.

Another image I can give you is of the muddy water in the pond. You muddy the bottom of the pond, you get muddy water which you cannot see through. But if you allow this to steady itself all the silt will fall back to the bottom of the pond again and it will become clear.

Q: How do you do that?

Hai: By not stirring it up. Just allow it to settle itself; must be free, must be non-attached to results, to events. This is true non-attachment. To be non-attached to results, to events.

Q: How do you become non-attached to events?

Hai: By stilling the mind. When you see, then you will realise that all these changeable events are nothing but the froth on the ocean, froth on the sea. You are complete onto your self. This is what you must realise. It is difficult when you are young, but you will realise in time. You are complete unto yourself and it is only when you are recognising this completeness unto your self that you may truly enjoy your relationship with others.

Q: Do you mean that you to be happy within yourself, Hai?

Hai: Yes, do not look for happiness outside yourself. You have fulfilment in some of the things you do, yes, which you seek for yourself? You should try to find greater fulfilment in this, greater happiness in this, greater completeness in this. Then you will find that relationship will come of itself without your seeking.

Divine Law and the Meaning of Non-Attachment

Q: Do divine laws exist, Hai?

Hai: In the sense that there are consequences to all our decisions, all our actions. In the sense that we are all seeking to be reunited with the One, to discover our way Home. In the sense of that if we turn away from the gate Home we open other gates which have less fortunate consequences. In this sense you could speak of divine laws. But there is no one pushing the button as you said before; no one pushing buttons.

Q: Is this something we can learn like learning the Ten Commandments and also know the consequences if we do not follow them?

Hai: There is only one commandment. Non-Attachment, Love and have Compassion for all things and all people.

Q: Isn't that three?

Hai: It is one. (Smiling). The other two, which you count, enables you to do the Great One. If you are attached your love will be of no avail; it will go astray. Therefore I qualify my exhortation to Love and have Compassion by saying: it should be in non-attached way.

Q: Does that mean, not let our ego get in the way?

Hai: Yes. Mankind always allows ego to get in the way and turns into evil principles, principles of light. So even love becomes a beating rod, a hammer on his fellows. 'I do this out of the love of you' they used to say, as they were torturing people, 'saving them from the error of their ways'. What kind of love is that? But they believed it. Is this not sadness?

Q: Does that mean that we should not be attached to our families then?

Hai: You must not turn 'non-attachment' into not being attached, Susan. We so often think of things in terms of opposites while we are on the earthly plane. But this is not the point. When we speak of 'attachment' we speak of our egos being attached; of being attached to the end result; a consequence. When we speak of 'non-attached' we speak of not being attached to any consequence, or any agenda, or any aim of our own, but simply viewing, loving the person, as they are themselves. Therefore, it does not mean, "do not be attached" and then stand back emotionally. It means "do not be attached" and do not be emotionally attached to your own aim or objectives for these people.

One member commented:

Q: So you love them but you let them be?

And another:

Q: So you don't try and sort things out for them?

Hai: (Smiling). This is a most subtle way of ego, most subtle ruse of ego. "I am not my ego; I am merely sorting these people out for themselves." (Laughter). You can engage with them obviously in communication, in guidance and dispassionate advice, but they must make their own minds up. So we should seek to give advise where it is sought. (Smiling). We should not impress it upon their heads.