Tranquil Spirit, Northwich, Cheshire, UK - Spirit Communications: Suicide

Spirit Communications:

Suicide

Q: What happens when a loved one commits suicide?

Hai: We have spoken of this before. It is a difficult thing, suicide experience. It is difficult for the one who commits suicide. It is difficult, in some ways more difficult, for those who are left behind, loved ones, who try and make sense of what has transpired. And it leaves them with feelings of guilt for perhaps not being as aware as they think they should have been, for not being able to help the person out of their pit of despair.

They should not feel this way, but they often do. Therefore, it is part of the karma of creating suicide that you create, by necessity pain not only for yourself but for those whom you leave behind. We have spoken oftentimes of the parallel of the boulder, the person who throws the boulder into the great lake or sea and the boulder creates so many ripples on the water, rippling out to the far, far shore. And so it is with someone who commits such an act. They create many ripples of karma, much pain, much torture.

It is understandable how people may come to this point in an earthly life, of a feeling of despair, of a feeling of overwhelming discouragement that there is no joy left in life. But this indicates often that the balance of their minds has been disturbed, that they no longer see things in a clear balanced way. For all things can change, all things can change. And though we might find ourselves in the pit of despair this day, this year, yet soon it may become as yesteryear and we will find ourselves in a much better place, a brighter place. It is a lack of faith in life this act of suicide. It is a great "NO" to life, whereas life must be embraced. Often the person who commits suicide is viewing life in an incorrect way, for they are comparing their present time perhaps, with a better time in the past.

Yet life is changeable, it is the very nature of life to change. Do we not change from childhood to adolescence to adulthood? Do we not even change in the various phases of adulthood? Therefore, we go with life, go with the flow of life. We must not set conditions; we must not set preconditions for our engagement with life. All these things will come to awareness when the soul has left the earthly life and returned to the Spirit Lands, but it can take some time for this awareness to come, to develop, and to be refined. And those souls who commit these acts sometimes may find themselves earth bound, as you call them, attached to the earthly realm, for there are so many issues that they have not resolved, so much unfinished business. But even those who progress to the spirit lands may find themselves in a lonely place, the grey regions. Not because they are malignant, not because they are wilful or wishing to harm others, but rather because they have isolated themselves, cut themselves off from the flow, from engagement with the community.

Yet it is difficult to generalise on this for the act of suicide is not one act with one particular character. There are many variations, many situations, many circumstances, which bring such people to commit the act of suicide. Therefore, we must not generalise. But all we can say is that they are bidding to escape pain, but such pain cannot be escaped; for if they fail to face it upon the earthly plane they must endure it and face it in the spirit lands. Therefore, there is no escape; they must win through by their own efforts, albeit with assistance. They must face their nightmares; they must face their challenges. There is no easy fix. Therefore, they have their work to do when they come to the spirit lands, the work that they failed to do upon the earthly plane. And there are many who help them here (spirit lands) but they, at the end of the day, must be their own task master, they must make progress. They must face responsibility for their actions. They must face responsibility for creating change.